The Problem of Presents …

My beloved cousin Elizabeth had a big milestone birthday last summer, and I just sent her a present a couple of weeks ago. She’s one of my favorite people on the planet, she has fabulous taste, and she’s not really into “stuff” — so it took me months to find something I thought she’d genuinely like and that I could afford. I bought her one of these fabulous black Chamba clay pots — it’s lovely, useful, handmade — all the kinds of things that make Elizabeth happy. Plus, it’s fun to get an unexpected present.

But I can’t exactly do that with Christmas. Christmas is in many ways about presents. And I love presents — I love thinking about what someone would really like, and finding that for them, and watching as they open something wonderful and surprising. What I don’t love are placeholder presents — those random objects we all buy at the last minute because we’ve got to buy something.

I’ve been sending food to my far-away family the last few years — I try to send cheese or hors d’oeuvres to my Mom and my Aunt Daphne and Uncle Denny — that way they can all have a little bit of me there for Christmas dinner even if I can’t be there. Or for my grandmother, who has proven for the last 30 years that it is indeed possible to live to a ripe old age eating nothing but chocolate — I make her truffles out of the darkest chocolate I can find with just a little bit of chili in them.

But there are still things that need to be purchased, and people for whom one can’t figure out what to buy. What are all of you doing to keep the madness at bay? Anyone have any useful strategies for those of us who didn’t shop all year and stash things in some closet someplace? December is here, the madness is descending even on our quiet little town, and I’m feeling the jungle drums of panic beginning to beat.

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Creature of Habit …

The last few months I’ve gotten into a writing rhythm that has really been working for me. I’ve been doing a blog post every day during the week, and weekends have been devoted to my new book. When I decided to get serious about the blog and to write on a regular basis, it was really to bring this little blog back to life. It never occurred to me that the discipline of taking care of the blog would bleed over into my creative work and prove a boon to that, but it has. Because I’ve written something of my own every day during the week, I find on weekends when it’s time to get back to the book, it’s much easier to pick up the thread. So, steady progress has been made, and although I have no social life, I’ve really been terrifically happy about it all.

And so it was something of a surprise how off-kilter I was all last week. LA was great, and I was thrilled to see my pretend children — I didn’t get a chance to blog about it, but the twins third birthday was an all-day affair involving much chirping of “It’s my BIRTH-day!” out of both of them. Three is such a fun age — and although infant twins are something of a logistical nightmare — they’re so funny now that they can talk to and play with one another. Their conversations alone are worth the price of admission — very very funny.

But it got me off my schedule. And then my internet connection was screwy all last week — I had no connectivity at all at home from Tuesday until late Thursday and it really threw me. I had to go out there in the mornings — out to the coffee shop where there are other people, where I had to get dressed in real clothes and where I ran into people I knew. It wasn’t a bad thing, but it did throw me off my game.

And so this weekend was lovely. My internet was back. I had my precious two days of silence, and puttering around the house, and descending into my basement office to pull up the book I’m working on. I did laundry and shopped for groceries and lo! my book had not actually turned into a pile of drek while I was away from it — nor had it gone entirely feral, snarling in the corner of my office where I’d neglected it. I finished a chapter. I started a new one. I read On Chesil Beach. I did laundry (the washer/dryer is in the basement, and I’m afraid I’ve become a little pavlovian in my love for the white noise of the laundry while I’m writing.) I even managed to outline a few topics for blogging this week.

My routine has been restored and it feels like my world is back on kilter. (Michael Ruhlman writes about the importance of a writer’s routine in his memoir House — it’s a terrific story about the importance of a home to a family and to creative work.) I know writers, like my friend Nina in LA, who can get work done among the chaos of family life — but I have never been able to do that. It takes me a lot of silence to be able to hear what’s going on inside my own head again — walking with the dogs helps, as does knowing that on the weekend I have two whole days stretched out before me where I’m not beholden to anyone else’s needs — like I said, I have no social life at the moment. But it’s winter in Livingston, a time when the wind howls, when darkness falls early, and when all the writers in town retreat to their offices and try to make up for the time we wasted playing outside during our short summer.

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Cold! It’s very Cold!

Winter has arrived — after a lovely day yesterday — all snowflakes falling gently from a sky out of which no gale-force winds blew (a perennial winter problem here) — this morning dawned frozen and cold. Three below outside. I’m certainly glad I blocked the dog door with that very-swanky piece of styrofoam I cut to fit last winter — because even with the 2-foot square hole in my back door blocked off, it’s chilly in my house this morning.

 Cold! Its very Cold!And poor Jacques, who is staying with me for the week while the MH drives the Famous Author to Arizona, wants to go out for a w-a-l-k. Ain’t going to happen until later. It’s supposed to go up to 20 later today. We’ll go for a walk later. When it’s not so cold. Too cold.

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More on Alice/Ameya …

Bonnie over at Ethicurean picked up this correction that the WSJ ran this morning on the money that Wade Dokken has paid Alice Waters to endorse his Ameya Preserve.

I don’t have much more to add to the several items I’ve already written about Alice Waters and the Ameya Preserve. Ameya’s advertising and marketing claims to be green are entirely unsupported. That Alice Waters is drinking Wade Dokken’s koolaid is disappointing, but at this point, not a surprise.

As far as I’m concerned, this definitively answers the is-she-or-isn’t-she  an elitist argument — Alice has made it very clear that what she cares about are the wealthy elite who can afford to delude themselves that building large second homes in critical wildlife habitat is “green” if they buy some fake carbon offsets and eat vegetables grown on site.

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Connection Down …

My DSL is on the fritz — something in the lines apparently, the tech support guy from my ISP (shout out to Bridgeband, they’re great and have terrific support) says it’s in the wires. We think it has something to do with the windstorms we’ve been having. Which means I’m waiting on Qwest. Which is a drag. So I’m ducking out a couple of times a day to the library or one of the coffee houses in town where there’s a wireless connection, but for the most part, I’m back in the pre-internet world.

Which is sort of interesting. You can get a lot done when you’re not wasting several hours a day dicking around online. I made granola this morning while the Bridgeband guy plugged things into various places to verify that yes, they are not working. I also cleaned my bathroom. Yay.

Here’s a little link to keep everyone entertained while I’m trying to get my connectivity back (and trying to get back in the writing saddle after being gone for a week). Via Ruhlman, here’s a terrific post by David Lebovitz on 10 Easy Ways to Improve Your Cooking.

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More LA Food Fun …

While Sushi Nozawa was the culinary highlight not just of my trip to LA, but perhaps of my entire gustatory existence, there was more food fun to be had during my visit to LA.

On Wednesday I went over to Brentwood to have dinner with my oldest college friend and his wife and year-old baby. They were hosting a couple, also with a little munchkin, who were visiting from France and they took over the cooking duties. Now my old friend Matt grew up to be kind of a big deal studio executive, and so people bring him really really nice bottles of wine when they come over. Matt doesn’t really drink, but since we were having a Francophile home dinner, Matt opened a bottle of wine. It was a Margaux — It was delicious. I love Bordeaux, and this one was, as one might expect, quite yummy. Sam and Ali were roasting a chicken over some vegetables, they made a lovely little endive, blue cheese and dried cranberry salad, and toasted some croutons to soak up the lovely chicken juices. Ali also made a lovely tarte tatin with phyllo dough for a crust — simple, easy, and absolutely wonderful. We drank most of the fabulous Margaux with cheese while watching the babies and waiting for the chicken to roast. Then Matt and Sam went off to see what else Matt had squirreled away in his cellar — they came back with a lovely lovely Stag’s Leap Pinot which we also enjoyed.

We’ve been talking endlessly about how people don’t cook, and Matt and Paige don’t cook much — he’s got a huge job, and she’s starting this very fabulous eco baby store called The Little Seed, and baby Jackson isn’t eating real food yet, so I think like so many people I know, they’ve just gotten out of the habit. It was such a pleasure not to eat takeout — to hang out in a kitchen full of the lovely smell of roasted chicken and to catch up with my old old friend, and to meet his new friends who were beyond lovely, and then to all sit down at the table together.

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Sushi Nozawa

When I was in LA last week, Nina and I managed to sneak away to Sushi Nozawa for a quick lunch. If you Google Sushi Nozawa, you’ll find all sorts of posts about how Nozawa-san is known as the “sushi nazi” and that he’s thrown all sorts of famous people out of the restaurant.

It’s a completely unassuming little restaurant in a strip mall in Studio City — when you walk in there are perhaps ten little tables — two- and four-tops and a small bar that seats maybe eight people. We were worried we’d be too late to sit at the bar, which is the whole point of going to Nozawa, but we got the last two seats. We smiled, sat down, ordered an iced green tea each, and then the fun began.

There’s no ordering at Nozawa. They simply bring you things. I love this because what do I know from the best sushi in the place? Nozawa-san bought the fish, he knows what’s best, and I was more than happy to put myself in his hands. First off was a plate of tuna sashimi, with a little tiny bit of soy and ginger and scallion on it — this was a big plate of tuna for the two of us, and it was absolutely delicious. Then came sashimi — I’m not sure what the first one was because sometimes they don’t tell you, they just hand you things. The fish was spectacular, and the rice is just slightly warm, which was absolutely lovely. The ones I liked the best (an understatement, the best things I’ve ever put in my mouth would be more like it) were the halibut, and the black cod. And then there were the hand rolls — perfectly toasted nori around that delicious warm sushi rice — we had three different ones, at different points in our meal: crab, salmon, and lobster. I’m not a huge crab fan but the crab in this roll was so delicious — each roll was about three bites, perfect perfect perfect.
I don’t know why people have any kind of problem with Nozawa-san — it’s so clear that one should put oneself entirely in his hands. His fish is so gorgeous, his light light sauces are so perfect, every taste is absolutely delicious. The pace is speedy, and the prices are steep, but it was probably the best meal I’ve ever eaten in my life.

And aside from the twins birthday party, the absolute highlight of my trip to LA.

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LivingSmall in LA

Here at LivingSmall we’re closing up shop for the week — I’m heading south to stay with my friends the striking screenwriters (if I make it to the picket lines, I’ll be sure to get a photo). We completely support the striking screenwriters here at LivingSmall (for what it’s worth). I’ve got a hunk of pancetta and some dried morels to contribute to the feast, and then on Friday, the big event is that the miracle babies are turning three! They’re big girls now — talking to one another and singing songs and generally getting into all sorts of trouble.

So we’ll be back online starting the 26th. Have a great Turkey everyone! Personally, I’m looking forward to some good sushi …

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